Dear America: Stop Being so Hard on Yourself.

As the Eagles say, take it easy.


Shayla Aguiar

This pose, and deep breathing, can help release tension in the back

Shayla Aguiar, Staff Writer

We all tend to be extremely hard on ourselves. We criticize ourselves for every mistake we make, and we judge ourselves harshly for every misstep. It’s a habit that many of us have that affects not only our mental health but also the way we perceive the world around us.

It’s time to recognize that constantly being hard on ourselves does more harm than good, to explore the importance of being kinder to ourselves, and how it can help us lead happier and more fulfilling lives.

One of the primary reasons we are hard on ourselves is that we tend to set incredibly high personal standards. The idea of perfection is something that many of us strive for, but no one can possibly achieve. No matter how talented or successful we may be, we always find about ourselves something to criticize. We compare ourselves to others, and we assume that we are not measuring up, even when we are doing our best.

Being too self critical can lead to a negative cycle of self-doubt and low self-esteem. When we constantly criticize ourselves, we develop a negative self image. We may feel that we are unworthy of love or that we are not good enough to achieve our goals. This negative self-image can then impact our lives, making it difficult for us to take risks or pursue our dreams.

Learning to be kinder to ourselves requires us to start acknowledging our strengths and achievements. We need to recognize that no one is perfect, and it’s okay to make mistakes. Instead of constantly criticizing ourselves, we need to start focusing on our accomplishments and remind ourselves of all the good things we have achieved. This positive mindset can help us develop a more positive image of ourselves.

Students take their minds off of school work by practicing yoga and mindfulness (Shayla Aguiar)

Another reason we tend to be hard on ourselves is that we often base our self-worth on external factors. We compare ourselves to others, and we base our self-esteem on how we measure up to their accomplishments. This tendency to base our self-worth on external factors is incredibly damaging to our mental health.

Instead of comparing ourselves to others, we need to start focusing on our own strengths and accomplishments. It is of utmost importance to develop an internal sense of self-worth that is not dependent on external factors. By focusing on our own accomplishments and strengths, we can develop a more positive self-image and a healthier level of self-esteem.

We should also feel the need to acknowledge that our failures and mistakes are part of our growth and development. Everyone makes mistakes, and it’s how we respond to those mistakes that define us. We need to learn from our mistakes and use them as opportunities for growth and development.

Instead of beating ourselves up over our failures, we need to start looking at them as learning opportunities. Remember, you cannot control others, but you CAN control how you react. 

In addition to developing a more positive self-image, being kinder to ourselves can also improve our relationships with others. When we are constantly hard on ourselves, we tend to be harder on others as well. We may be more critical of the people around us, and we may have a harder time developing relationships.

Stretching helps the blood flow and keeps young (and old) bodies healthy. (Shayla Aguiar)

By becoming kinder to ourselves, we can develop a more positive outlook on life, and be more supportive of others. We can develop more positive relationships and become more empathetic and caring. When we are kind to ourselves, we tend to be kinder to others as well.

Being more compassionate to ourselves requires a conscious effort to change the way we think about ourselves. We need to start recognizing our strengths and accomplishments and stop focusing on our failures and shortcomings. We need to develop an internal sense of self-worth and stop basing our self-esteem on external factors. By doing so, we can lead more fulfilling and happier lives.

In conclusion, we need to recognize the harm being overly hard on ourselves can do. It’s time to start being kinder to ourselves, recognizing our strengths, and focusing on our accomplishments. We need to develop an internal sense of self-worth that is not dependent on external factors. By doing so, we can improve our mental health, our relationships with others, and our overall quality of life. It’s time to stop being hard on ourselves and start being kinder to ourselves.